Financial stress goes to the bone of our deepest concern–staying alive.
Hard to look anywhere today without seeing how quickly prices have gone up. My two dogs biscuits have gone form $3.99 to $5.49. At least they don’t realize it. Gas is ridiculous and now it seems that $3.68 a gallon is a low price. Heating oil is over the top. Could go on and on. As I’m sure you know.
Add to that the debt driven stock market and real estate debacles. Once again people already wealthy have been able to juice the system and leave a huge mess for everyone else to clean up.
If you’ve been close to foreclosure or watched your life savings shrink along with the value of your home, or if you just feel beaten up after shopping for groceries–be alert to a real danger. The danger of saber tooth tigers attacking you.
We’re hard wired for a survival response known as the fight or flight response. It kicks in when we’re faced with life-threatening danger. It’s meant for short term use only. The problem is that this hard wiring is not well suited for life today. It’s meant for conditions that are long gone.
It too often triggers in error, when we’re fearful and worried too much. Especially when we’re worried about conditions that reflect or symbolize survival risk, conditions like chronic financial stress.
Our ancestors faced the danger of being lunch for saber toothed tigers. When suddenly confronting that danger–they’d move in to flight or flight–so they could run or fight like hell. If they survived–the fight or flight response would shut down before too long.
Today we face fierce saber toothed tigers. The ones roaming around in our mind. They eat us up with fear and worry and leave us floating around on a river of stress hormones. Many thousands of people drown in this river every day.
If you’re facing chronic financial stress, do your best to develop an action plan that will empower you to feel in control. Seek help doing that–from reliable sources.
Exercise and relaxation training can be very helpful. So can deep breathing. Try taking three deep diaphragmatic breaths, breaths coming into and going out from an area just below your breastbone. On the out breath–just let it go. Don’t walk the breath out–just release it. If you’re alone–sigh on the out breath. At the end of the out breath is a relaxed state, one calm and clear. Tune yourself to that as best as possible. That will help free you from a saber toothed tiger or two.
If you let these saber toothed tigers in your mind alone–without becoming identified or distracted by them–they’ll just come and go. Without triggering the fight or flight response.
We live in strange times on some level. Many people worry about preparing for retirement–yet they don’t give any thought to preparing for death.
I try to remember and connect to the things that really make life worth living. Even the little things like seeing the joy on my dogs faces when they get their expensive bones.